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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 5:17PM jimr9999us said

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Bowling is "just a game".

The fact that my team mate sleeps with my wife is what makes it interesting...

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 5:31PM Lenn said

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@jimr9999us

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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 6:16PM Space Cobra said

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@jimr9999us

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=42chG3c59JI

Maybe the 1:01 section applies to you?
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 6:23PM Utakata said

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@jimr9999us

...apparently cuckolding is also a game.
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 7:19PM h4ngedm4n said

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I am sorry, Eliot, but most of the time when I see the phrase "It is just a game" used, it is entirely appropriate. If someone gets angry or emotional over a video game, I too will use that phrase to get them to calm down. If they do not calm down, the next steps are to ignore/blacklist that player so I do not have to deal with ragers and angry players.

Sometimes the phrase is used wrongly, but when that is the case the other person does not react in an offended manner. But if it does offend you, it is time to look in the mirror.

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 8:20PM Azules said

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@h4ngedm4n Agree with you, but the phrase doesn't ever seem to calm people down. More often than not the person you're talking to is a shut in or a no lifer, so the reminder they're getting so het up over a game just makes them embarassed and ashamed of themselves, resulting in more defensive whining.

Which is A. Pretty funny and B. A great fast track to blacklisting an idiot, which is always a positive thing imo. better on the list than off after all.
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 7:22PM Utakata said

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A varient of "It's just a game" was addressed to me from yesterday's Dailey Grind:

"WE'RE ARGUING OPINIONS ON IF VIDEO GAMES SHOULD BE MORE DIFFICULT ON THE INTERNET.
Get out of the house some time, it's a beautiful world."

...yes, that was posted unedited. So I can't apologise for the full caps.

Honeslty, I don't know what to think of the trope "it's just a game." I think there's good merits to both sides of this debate. One that the MMO's I play are certainly a dedicated hobby as Mr. Lefebvre pointed out. But I can't help thinking, the raid guilds of WoW who have "become serious business," with some of them even claiming to have "sponsorship." So when does this hobby we take seriously become too serious? Thus to them, I would really like to remind them, "It's just a game."

As for the quote above: Ironically that was stated by someone who takes his raiding and game play very seriously. Since this was an arguement, where it was suggested that gamers' playstyles are what ever works for them, and thus really nobody should get serious how they execute it. Of coarse he most vehemently disagreed. It's kinda weird how he ended up preaching to me that I was the one that needed to "get out of the house"...

...though from this I suspect, that this is where Mr. Lefebvre needs to better define - or any of us for that matter - what is taking a game seriously and what is taking a game too seriously about. I think there should be a good middle ground for this. Just saying.

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 7:23PM h4ngedm4n said

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I should probably clarify, the intended use is:
(1) "It is just a game, chill out, have fun man"
NOT
(2) "It is just a game, you are a loser"
If someone says "It is just a game", I believe the first one is intended, but sometimes the second form is interpreted by the other party.

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 7:29PM (Unverified) said

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Well done. You've managed to write an entire article about one word.

But all joking aside, good read!

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 7:53PM Graill440 said

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Actually they are just games, entertainment, they can never replace intuative human interaction, people that live in "Games" and not real society (the internet is not real society) have other issues.

I love PC games, but i like boating, fishing, people even more. I can spend weeks on a game, but then i know i need to balance that out and/or mix it up lest i feel a shutin. It does not take long for people to migrate away from you if you ignore them for something like a simple, make believe game.

Anyone feeling they are so attached to an avatar in a game to the point they would, in real life, kill, kill themselves, commit a crime, or seclude themselves needs big help.

If you cannot delete a game character and a game and not worry about it you have a problem, and no soapbox will help you stand above that problem regardless of the argument a person tries to use.

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 9:00PM JoeH42 said

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@Graill440 What a lovely way to completely miss and ignore the point of this article. I could easily mock and deride an activity like fishing, because, hey all you're doing is standing there with a piece of string in the water and it's not like you're interacting with other people and blah blah blah. Just because YOU like fishing more than games doesn't mean everyone has to be like you. You think you're the gold standard every other human should be measured against?
How do you feel about someone enjoying a novel? If we follow your little theory here there's no reason anyone should form an attachment to a story told in any fashion and if they can't throw a book away and not worry about it they have a problem. Go ahead and go to Jordoncom 2012 and tell people that and see how well it goes over. Boy some people are dense.
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 10:08PM Azules said

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@JoeH42 You missed his point, too. He's talking about doing anything to excess, he's not judging people for doing X, He's making a comment on doing X too much to the detriment of his of his social life.
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 8:23PM Veldekar said

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Hate to be the one to break it to you, but it's 'just a game', dude.

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 8:55PM JoeH42 said

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@Veldekar Hate to be the one to break it to you but you're just trolling, dude.
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 9:44PM Veldekar said

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@JoeH42
Hate to break it to you, but its just a game forum.Don't get so upset, I wasn't trolling, just being facetious...
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 8:42PM Arkanos said

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When you're immersed in a game, that's when it's not "just a game" -- it's THE game (you know, like what we're paying for). When you're out of the immersion but, say, raging over something, that's when "It's just a game" as a cool-off can be valuable.

The problem is that griefers use "It's just a game" to blow people's immersion in the first place, as though they were saviors or doctors who are kindly enlightening us to the truths of the world.

The hypocrisy, of course (as someone brought-up above), is that griefers can be as into the immersive elements of a game (well, the ones handed to them on a silver platter) as anybody.

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 8:54PM JoeH42 said

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Amen brother! I've been reading Massively for over two years now but this is the first article I'm saving to my favorites to re-read and/or quote to people in the future. NOTHING pisses me off more than when I'm frustrated over something game related and my wife says "It's only a game" and no matter how I try to explain it to her she just doesn't get it. Maybe if I read her this article it might get through to her.
P.S. She also has severe OCD so you'd think someone who completely flips out if I were, for example, to touch the floor with my hand and then touch her, would have a little more apprecation that some things are more important to other people than they are to us and should be respected.

Posted: Dec 6th 2011 8:57PM h4ngedm4n said

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@JoeH42
If you are getting frustrated over something game related, and it is carrying over to your out of game life, it might be time to play a less frustrating game. I agree with your wife, it is just a game. This article will not convince her otherwise.
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 10:10PM Azules said

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@JoeH42 She has a compulsion, You don't get a pass for that as they aren't equivalent.

You should never get genuinely angry or frustrated with a game, you're an adult for gods sake, you should probably listen to your wife.
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Posted: Dec 6th 2011 9:46PM BlackFx said

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I don't get it. Probably like everyone else here and have played games since child birth. I understand when you are a gamer and you want people to respect your gaming and all that but I seriously don't understand why it matters whether someone says that 'its just a game'. I mean seriously, if it hurts you that much then you should probably age a few years and do something else with your life. I dunno, work 16 hour days 7 days a week or something. Then you'd have something to argue. Just making a point to blow your horn is as irritating and immature as the person saying 'its just a game'.

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