Sorry, but major trading hubs are like cities in other MMORPGs, I'm pretty sure that if people would take 4 minutes to enter or exit an inn in Altdorf in Warhammer Online (or any other equivalent place in any other game) there'd be a riot.
I don't see why massive (and i mean it) lag can be discounted just because you can decide not to go there.

Eve is in many ways a lovely game, and the increase in it's popularity demonstrates it, but flaws are flaws, and this one is pretty evident and should be adressed.