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Posted: Oct 25th 2008 5:08PM Anatidae said

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Actually... of most import to the single male player out there;

Stop playing video games and go out in the real world. You know, girls are out there and statistically, they tend to find their mates outside of video game worlds.

Seriously, if you think playing a druid in WoW is going to net you a girlfriend then drop me a line because I have some love potion to sell you too. Just rub it on you and your keyboard and you will get hooked up with that Elf in no time. Only $299 for each dose!

Posted: Oct 25th 2008 6:20PM (Unverified) said

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My wife is a statistical anomaly then. She plays Horde, Tauren, Warrior. So, don't bother going out in the real world, guys. The women you want are playing WoW.
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Posted: Oct 25th 2008 6:28PM Anatidae said

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Calarius,

Did you meet your wife in WoW, then go on real life dates, then get married?

I have read stories of it happening. But the number of times a single guy met, dated and married a WoW player out of the millions of players is rare. Considering millions of people go out to bars/clubs/whatever - date - marry every day.

Single guys, seriously, if you want a girl on your arm tonight, this very saturday night, go take a shower, put on your cool clothes, and head out with confidence. Women love a man with confidence, slightly mysterious, a little hard to get, but also flattering. If you really want to arm yourself, do a bit of reading in the next couple hours on how to attract women. Then do it! Seriously, you can meet a girl this very night.

However, in WoW, well... I guess you can flag yourself LFG - Looking for Girlfriend and see how that works out.
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Posted: Oct 25th 2008 11:25PM (Unverified) said

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Shut up, Brian. You are on an MMO blog site, what in the hell makes you think you're some expert on what people are doing in their lives? More men play MMO's than women. OH SHIT!! THAT MEANS ALL MEN WHO PLAY ARE NERDS WHO WON'T GET GIRLFRIENDS. Guess what, more men play basket ball than women, and baseball. You gonna hold that same standard? Athletes, get off the field/court, go meet women, you're wasting your time. And bars or clubs are NOT the place any self respecting person is going to meet women.

Retard.
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Posted: Oct 26th 2008 12:18AM Anatidae said

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Tasogare,

Woah, sort of rude there. I appreciate your disagreement though.

First, I am not saying all men who play are nerds. I am saying that WoW is not an appropriate place to fill the void in your lack of love life.

And, if you only played basketball and never left the court to do anything else social - why you would have a shitty chance of meeting women too. BUT at least when you play basketball you might be doing it in a public place where you might have a chance to meet new people.

In contrast, sitting at home in front of your LCD screen spamming number keys hoping that your going to get a good drop or maybe your endlessly earning DKP. Uh, yea, that pretty much screws with your chances to make a romantic connection.

And I am not even saying it is impossible, just very, very unlikely. And bars, clubs, not the best place in the world to meet people - but FAR better than WoW. Even better than that... go outside, take part in local community events or take a class that interests you. Like dance. Seriously, Tango, Swing, etc... you'll meet tons of single women surprisingly enough. Plus you get exercise, you learn how to move, and gain a new skill.

Finally, Retard? Seriously? Are you 14? Way to lower the MMO I.Q. average. I suppose we will have to have Sanya adjust the charts on the average intelligence of a WoW player.

Posted: Oct 26th 2008 7:22AM SgtBaker said

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Brian,

You say WoW is not appropriate place to find potential love interests.

You list basketball court, local community events, classes and dancing as appropriate places.

Your view and ideals sound very outdated ("Healthy kids need to play outside, not inside").

Why are MMO's any different from the hobbies you listed? Just due to the fact that they're virtual? So what about online dating? E-mailing potential date? Phoning someone Or writing good old fashioned letter? No physical contact is required for any of them and I'm quite sure many people are finding romantical connections doing those things.

As you pointed out being hard-core basketball player might not be good for your lovelife, but being casual hobbyist might help you meet new people. How is that different from WoW?

What if you're playing WoW to meet people and tie new social contacts? How is that different from the hobbies you listed?

Doing too much of anything will likely make it very hard to tie social connections, online or not.

I'm afraid you might be a prisoner of your own generalizations and stereotyping - have open mind - MMO's are actually pretty social games if you give them a chance.
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Posted: Oct 26th 2008 3:41PM Anatidae said

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Baker,

I am not saying healthy kids should play outside, I am simply stating that the odds are stacked against you meeting someone you will/can date in an MMO compared to, well, getting outside and taking part in activities that involve other human beings, especially activities that also attract the attention of the sex of the mate you're looking for.

How is WoW different for making social contacts? Well, first it is all virtual. Yes you meet people, but you are not meeting the real person at all, but rather someone pretending to be something else like a Druid. Further, it is highly likely that the person will not live in your geographical area, so meeting face to face becomes a lot of work to impossible.

I love MMOs. I play no other game but MMOs and I started back in the MUD days when they were far more social than they are today. But I will maintain that WoW is not a very good place to try and meet women. Specifically the article mentioned that as a goal, meeting women as they roll a lot of druids.

Online dating, totally great. It is different in that it targets your area, you have tools designed to meet people and the services goal is to get you to meet in person. But if you ever used something like match.com you would have found out that everyone is different than their profile (good or bad) leads you to believe. I myself initially met my wife through a site called Matchmaker.com back in the day. But it was not until we met in person in Golden Gate Park that we really knew that we got along. I also met up with so many girls that seemed cool online and in person we just didn't sync up.

Again, my point is that when it comes to dating and finding romance, if you banking on WoW good luck to you. The odds are against you of it working out. Simple statistics there.


What is up with defending WoW as this awesome place to meet women? Seriously, do you believe that this outlet is really the ideal place for someone who likes MMOs to find their next girlfriend? Maybe you can find a LAN party where a bunch of WoW players go... that would improve your odds significantly.
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Posted: Oct 26th 2008 1:22PM (Unverified) said

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Tasogare you are pissed that Brian! made what you feel is a generalization about people playing MMOs but you start your comment off by saying "You are on an MMO blog site, what in the hell makes you think you're some expert on what people are doing in their lives?" way to be a hypocrite.

Then you say self respecting people wouldn't look to meet a person at the bar/club, (another generalization) there is nothing inherently wrong or degrading about meeting someone at a bar or club (maybe you would know that if you tried) ok maybe you have but sorry couldn't help myself lol, not all clubs/bars are drunk orgy fests ok? anyways...you definitely over reacted to his comment.

At least SgtBaker attempted to reply to Brian! in a more mature and logical manner then whatever you would call your comment. Speaking of SgtBaker...since when did the idea that healthy kids should play outside become outdated? last time I checked if a KID never leaves the house to go outside I would think there is a problem.

Also he didn't say you couldn't find a potential partner in WOW he just said you are more likely to outside in a public environment where there are physical bodies present which is true. You may not succeed but if you go outside with the intention to talk to a girl you will encounter a real life non virtual female and best of luck to you in that encounter.

His suggestion of dance lessons was a good one, I went before to one and many girls were there. The single girls there need a guy for a dance partner sure in WOW u can /dance with someone but here you will actually get to make physical contact with a real women...ur choice. Is physical contact and interaction necessary to start a relationship? no...would most people prefer it? I know I would.

Also you are not wrong in saying u can meet through email, dating sites etc. I guess WOW is an option too...none of this discredits his main point which was if you want to meet a girl you have better chances going outside to meet one then you do if you don't go out, and look instead in WOW.

"Prisoner of your own generalizations" ??? lol...poor guy he think its a better idea to go outside and try to meet girls then look in WOW I feel sorry for him meeting all those real life women we all know real life women aren't half as epic as the women in WOW. I mean my only complaint is that they haven't added in the /date command...well there is still time before the next expansion hope you are listening Blizzard :p

Posted: Oct 26th 2008 2:19PM SgtBaker said

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Fair enough - and I didn't mean to discredit dancing and other "real" activities, I was just rather taken aback by the manner in which Brian! seemed to discard everything else than real world, "physical" ways to meet people.

And what I meant by the "Healthy kids" reference was the way especially the older generations seem to percieve video games and gamers in general. "Video games are not good for you. Video games are a waste of time. They isolate children. Kids never go outside to play. They just sit there and stare at the TV all day."

It's hard not to generalize when it comes to this topic - the caricatures of nerdy games and sports jock are very well displayed in several modern pop-culture genres - all I'm saying one should keep open mind for both ideals (for maximum gains :-))

Anyway, off to check those hawt Alliance druids mamas!
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Posted: Oct 27th 2008 11:28AM Evy said

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I think you took the article far, far, FAR too seriously. One flippant comment about meeting chicks in WoW, and it turns into this? Yeesh.

For the record, I'm a female and play an Alliance druid. I was originally Horde. I switched for my boyfriend, who I met on IRC many years ago. We fell out of touch for quite some time, then got back in touch through WoW. So hah. :P

Posted: Oct 29th 2008 3:53AM (Unverified) said

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that's cool sgtbaker i know what you mean. i guess the main point is to try to live a balanced life and to not put so much time into just one thing to the point it becomes unhealthy or starts affecting other important parts of your life. Ya also as Evi said I don't think the writer was really promoting WOW as a way to find girls. I am sure his comment was more likely just to be humorous and not taken seriously. I just posted my comment because I felt Brian! was kind of getting some unnecessary heat for just trying to give out some helpful advice. At least everyone has had reasonable comments except for Tasogare. Tasogare go sit out...come back when you are ready to play nice with the rest of the kids hehe.

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