Wait a second, exactly who is the pathetic one? He's spending his time doing what he wants to do, and you're the one who is upset because it isn't spending time with you.

You're the one "trapped" in a bad relationship because you insist that your boyfriend become something he isn't. "Training" your significant other is a mad fiction penned by sitcom writers and bitter vituperative harpies who believe that they have the right to control other people, particularly the men in their lives.

If he isn't giving you what you want in a relationship, then why are you still in that relationship? Love? You mean you are so dedicated to your boyfriend that you would tolerate his ignoring your needs in favor of his own entertainment? If you aren't getting anything out of this relationship, then why continue it? Find yourself a boyfriend who is more of what you want.

I'm sorry, the word "pathetic" is indeed appropriate, but not as it is applied to him. You're a "victim-by-choice", and there isn't much in this world more pathetic than that.